Etiquette rules for the sidewalk? I know that sounds strange, so let me explain.
A colleague recently called me and wanted some help. She said that she had been out walking and saw a couple approaching her on the sidewalk. She wanted to follow todayâs social-distancing guidelines, and she realized that the other people were going to be too close to her if everyone continued walking straight. Her question: âWho should have moved over?â
This question highlights an etiquette dilemma in our coronavirus-dominated world âto ensure adequate space between people outdoors, who moves out of the way when two or more people are sharing a walkway?
This situation may arise more frequently as people are being encouraged to exercise. David Pogue, a correspondent for the television show Sunday Morning on CBS News, did a segment this week on How to live AND work at home without going stir crazy. His fifth rule was âGo Outside.â His suggestion was to take walks with people who live with you, but steer clear of others.
Obviously, etiquette concerns are nowhere near as critical as getting needed masks and respirators to hospitals, but having answers for day-to-day situations can help people to stay safe, and also give them a sense of having some control in our uncertain world.
Below are guidelines to help you safely navigate sidewalks and walkways shared with other people:
1.Pay attention. Notice your surroundings and anticipate. If you are talking on the phone or texting, itâs easy to become distracted and not notice someone coming your way. If your view is obscured for any reason â such as when you are approaching a corner â you may be unable to see someone walking directly toward you. Be aware of that possibility, and proceed cautiously until you can see whatâs ahead. You donât want to bump into people!
2. Who moves? If someone is approaching and you realize youâll be too close when passing each other, what are you to do?Generally, it is the responsibility of each walker to move to the right when passing so that there is at least six feet between you. If the person approaching you is walking with a cane, pushing a baby stroller, or struggling with agility issues, you are the one who should move out of the way. Bottom line: Donât stand on ceremony. If you believe that someone will be too close to you, move over!
3.Walk single file. If you are walking side by side with someone â even if you are several feet apart â go to single file when passing others. If you donât, you put the person approaching you in the awkward position of deciding whether to go around one of you or to go between the two of you.
4.Donât hog the sidewalk. If you block the walkway when you stop to chat with someone â from a safe distance! â or to let your dog do his business, itâs your responsibility to move aside and let other people pass.
5.Pass people carefully. If you want to pass someone, make your presence known. You can call out âbehind youâ or âon your leftâ so you donât startle the person. You then move to the left, keeping your social distance. The other person can also move to the right, making it easier for the person who wants to pass.
6.Greet others. People can hear a âgood morningâ or see a wave from six feet away. Even though we are social-distancing, we still want to be social. (See my blog on Greeting Others In A Social-Distancing World.) And remember, if someone says âhelloâ to you, good manners require that you say âhelloâ back.
7.Wash your hands when you return home. You donât know what you might have touched while you were out. Frequent hand-washing is high on the list of recommendations for fighting this coronavirus.
Pachter & Associates provides seminars and coaching on business etiquette, presentation skills, career advancement, professional presence, and business writing. For additional information, please contact Joyce Hoff at Joyce@pachter.com or 856.751.6141.
I taught people the correct way to shake hands in my etiquette classes for over 25 years.
In a world of coronavirus, our ways of interacting with others must change. The animated video of the burning matchesby Spanish graphic designer Juan Delcan illustrates how social distancing â staying at least 6 feet away from everyone else â can help stop the spread of the Covid-19 virus.
I love the handshake. It allows you to connect with and touch someone in a non-sexual way that establishes a bond and an element of trust. It promotes equality, too, as both men and women shake hands. But there is no touching in a social-distancing world.
Yet eliminating the handshake from our world does notmean itâs time to stop connecting. Today, relating to others is more important than ever, as many of us are working from home and feeling isolated from colleagues and friends.
During this crisis, I encourage you to use other greetings. In my international etiquette class, I teach that there are four key greetings around the world. The two that involved touching clearly should not be used: the handshake, and hugs and kisses. The other two are the bow, and the namaste (hands pressed together, palms touching and fingers pointing upwards, with a slight bow). Either of these can be used to acknowledge others if you are taking a walk for exercise, or video-chatting with colleagues or friends.
You could also wave. Acknowledging someone with a wave can go a long way in letting people know you are pleased to see them. Plus, itâs important to smile. I know that these are tough times, and right now it may not seem like there is a lot to smile about, but connecting with others is one way we will get through this crisis. (In Italy, residents gathered on their balconies to publicly praise and thank their medical caregivers, and then joined in singing popular songs that echoed from building to building across the city! It was such an uplifting sight, videos of it were shown around the world.)
I donât know when social distancing will end. Soon, I hope. And when it does, I look forward to shaking your hand!
Additional information about greetings and your career can be found in my book, The Essentials of Business Etiquette: How to Greet, Eat, and Tweet Your Way to Success (McGraw Hill).
Pachter & Associates provides seminars and coaching on business etiquette, presentation skills, professional presence and business writing. For additional information, please contact Joyce Hoff at Joyce@pachter.com or 856.751.6141.